Today has the potential to change the way you think,act, work, and communicate. It has the potential to set you apart from the majority of the people in the world today.

It’s fairly obvious that everyone wants to be happy and satisfied. Everyone wants to live a fulfilled life. If you look around you today, you’ll see a world full of people who are always searching for satisfaction, but many never quite find it.

But I’m here to tell you that happiness IS possible for everyone, no matter the circumstances. But there could be something that is actually sabotaging your happiness. And today, I want toexpose that thing to you.

This particular thing not only affects your happiness, but it bleeds into your work life, killing your productivity and causing stress and procrastination. It causes others to not want to work with you, live with you, or be around you. It will try to creep into your life and take over your emotions, your family, your business or career, your finances, and your relationships.

That’s why we eat the foods we eat. It’s why we hang out with the people we hang out with. It’s why some people work endless hours or shop excessively or cheat on their spouses.

When you’re single, by practicing Conscious Dating you can do a lot more than you realize to avoid these traps and prepare for a lasting and successful relationship.

1. Marketing Trap

You believe that you need to make yourself more appealing to attract and ‘sell’ yourself with an attractive packaging and presentation.

When you fall into the Marketing Trap, you fear that nobody wants you as you really are. By marketing’ yourself, you risk disappointment and relationship failure. So when the excitement and promise of the ‘sizzle’ conflicts with the reality of the ‘steak’, one or both of you are left feeling disappointed and angry.

Strategy: Authenticity. You will attract compatible people when you show them who you really are: “Birds of a feather flock together.” Just be you. Don’t present a fake you.

In fact, a study done by a gentleman in the University of Pennsylvania, I believe it was in the 1970s suggested that 55% of the meaning of our communication comes from physiology, 38% of it comes from a tonality that we used (tonality is the way that we used our voice and the tone of voice) and then 7% is from the actual words that we use.

So we need to recognize that the majority of the meaning of our conversation is coming from non-verbal means – totally non-verbal means.

However, when taking a step back and looking at their marketing strategy, all is quickly revealed – they don’t have one.

Their marketing campaigns are generating revenue with guesswork, wishful thinking and luck thrown in for good measure.

This does not make for a successful business.

It’s easy to bring in new clients and make money when you know how… but you must take the time to educate yourself on the strategies required. That’s why today, I share with you 10 of my top marketing strategies that will help you get more clients and make more money quickly.

1. Pretend you just met.
Whether you’ve been together for six months or six years, spend some time each day acting as if you just started dating. Ask him what he thought of that TV episode or share what you’d do if you won the lottery.

“Over time, couples stop asking those exploratory, get-to-know-you questions because they think they already understand each other,” says Terri Orbuch, author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great. But because we all continue to change and develop, little daily check-ins like this are what keep the connection growing, according to Orbuch’s research of 373 pairs. Chat about something besides the daily grind—at least for a bit.

And how, whether it be high or low, self esteem is simply a habit that we all can overcome – a habitual way of thinking about ourselves. As American psychologist and philosopher William James observed about 100 years ago ‘All our life … is but a mass of habits’.

Many professional experts refer to people as having ‘low self esteem’ – as if this were a thing which exists somewhere inside us and which, therefore, needs expert professional treatment….well I don’t think so.

Yet, as we recognise in Neuro Lingustic Programming, this is missing the point by miles! Because there is no such ‘thing’ as self esteem – whether it be high or low. Self esteem is not something we have – it is something we do through how we think.